After the question was raised on lavish.nu about being a Stay At Home Mum for the sake of a career, I was thinking where I stand on this issues.
Personally, I've worked sooo hard to get into one of the top uni's in England to study Computer Science, that I will never be a SAHM it is not who I am.
I believe children are important and I do want to have two children maybe when I'm 28 or 30. I feel I have no rush and everyone keeps asking me when are me and BoyToy are having them and even asking are we getting married because we have one on the way (uh no!).
I have to complete my degree so 4 years that will make me 27 then I want find a good job which has progess for me to become an IT manager also allow me to study for my Masters (the degree after the one I complete) and hopefully my doctorate (part-time of course).
BoyToy is going to be 30 by the time we are married so he will be late 30s before we have children, I don't feel bad about him being older than most people having children as he understands how important my degree is to me. But he is aduty manager at my shop so he earns a good wage and would go part-time when we have children so he can be a stay at home dad as he dislikes his job and would prefer it, personally that is fine with me, he can stay at home and I can bring home the bacon!
Also after I have children I would not mind studying for my teaching degree which would mean I could complete a life time goal of teaching ICT to secondary school children but life is full of things I would love to do :)
Don't get me wrong, I think people who stay at home to look after thier children are amazing, my best mate does it and loves it so much but saying that she is also going back to school to study Beauty and Health as my god daughter is now nearly 2.
I think if you can afford to be a SAHM then you should do it but I also wouldn't feel guilty if you work and have children after all women can multi-task..
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That's soo cool that your bf wants to be a SAHD. It always cracks me up that it sounds like sad lol. But seriously, you have career goals and he's not a fan of his job, so why not? I think it sounds like a great plan.
ReplyDeleteIt's a personal choice.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand career-oriented people and if I was okay enough to have children, I would, and I'd stay home with them. It's up to the woman to decide, and I don't think it's really a debateable question and there shouldn't be a "Children Vs Career" thing. You can have both, if you want.
I'd rather pick Children though. :)
Also, I don't think the CommentLuv thingy is working properly, it keeps giving me a MySQL error. x_x'
ReplyDeleteOh, you're not coming off as an arse at all! :D I just wanted to explain my POV on the subject, 's all. Like I said, it's a personal choice and we all do what feels the best for all of us. :)
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